I hesitated to post any of his message here, because it is surely best in its entirety. Realizing that much will be left out, I do add a few sentences and paragraphs that did stand out to me at the time I first read them.
So, TO REMIND ME, and to inspire me to return to the full message on occasion (because reading between the lines on this page will add so much more inspiration):
... how we respond when we fail will ultimately determine how well we will succeed ...
... learn how to fail successfully ...
This earth, the setting for our mortal existence, was created so
that we could “prove” ourselves. But I believe we may not appreciate the full
meaning of the word prove in that scripture. In everyday usage
the word prove means to demonstrate something that already exists.9 Thus we take final exams to prove what
we already know about the material we have been studying that semester. But the
Oxford English Dictionary provides
an additional meaning for the word prove. It indicates that prove also means “to
find out, learn, or know by experience.”10
I believe the opportunity we have to prove ourselves in this life was not
designed to allow us to demonstrate to God how obedient we already were before
we came to earth. He, and we, already knew that. God formed this earth and gave
us this mortal existence so that we could “prove” ourselves in the other sense
of that word—so that we could “find out, learn, or know by experience” truths
that we did not already know and that we could not learn in any other way.
We always
think of failure as the antithesis of success, but it isn’t. Success often lies
just the other side of failure.11
... Nephi
when he was given the assignment to obtain the brass plates from Laban. As we
know, his first two efforts failed, but he persisted and ultimately succeeded.
In the process he discovered the power of being “led by the Spirit,” 13 a critical lesson that he may not have
learned if the first effort to persuade Laban to release the plates had been
successful. Nephi’s life was forever changed in a positive way because he
failed twice—and, more important, because of the way he responded to those
failures.
Thus failing is a critical component of our eternal progress—our
quest for perfection. And because of the Atonement we can—if we respond to
failures in the right way—be blessed with a new kind of learning that allows
our failures to become part of the perfecting process. As Elder Bruce C. Hafen
has explained, the beauty of the gospel is that “because of the Atonement, we
can learn from our mistakes without being condemned by them.”14 What a wonderful blessing that
absolutely marvelous and indispensable portion of the plan of salvation
provides to each of us, if we will but take advantage of it.
This
does not mean that we should try to fail as often as we can. “Not all failures
are created equal.”15
Finally, we can be assured that however we have failed, it can, from an eternal perspective, be changed. The Atonement is that powerful and that comprehensive. As Elder Jeffrey R. Holland put it:
If you are lonely, please know you can find comfort. If you are discouraged, please know you can find hope. . . . If you feel you are broken, please know you can be mended.28
Because of the Atonement, all failures are changeable and temporary, except the one that occurs when we give up. So whatever you do, don’t you dare give up.
What I am suggesting is not simply an affirmation of the power of positive thinking; it is a recognition of the power of the gospel of Jesus Christ—the perspective it gives us, the truths it provides, and “the infinite virtue of [Christ’s] atoning sacrifice”29 that is available to us all. Yes, I am asking you to trust yourself more, but, more important, I am asking you to trust God. I urge you—in your moments of doubt and despair, in the times when you think you have failed and you think you can’t make it right—to focus more on Him and less on yourselves.
God is as good, as powerful, as loving, as patient, and as consistent as He says He is. If we will but focus on the eternal truths He has made available to us, both through institutional revelation and through personal promptings and reassurances, He will turn all our failures into successes. I bear my witness that He lives and loves us with a love we cannot comprehend. He gave His Son so that we might move forward in our quest for perfection with full confidence and assurance that we will succeed despite our failures.
(As a side note: my study continued and Elder Dale G. Renlund's message given in April 2015 General Conference goes well with Brother Worthen's talk above.)
